How to Save a Christian Marriage

Christian marriage is a commitment. It is a lifelong commitment to each other and to God. All too often a Christian marriage can hit a rough spot. Sometimes those rough spots are so intense and frustrating the couple may ask if their marriage is worth it and may even consider dissolving the union. However desperate the situation may seem, all is not lost. There are many ways to save your marriage. These are just a few.

First and most importantly, open the lines of communication. Sit down with your spouse and in a non-argumentative tone talk things out. Talk about what is bothering you, what is bothering them and how the both of you may be able to make changes for the sake of each other. Honor each others feelings and thoughts and never attack or belittle each others opinions. If you communicate with each other honestly and openly you will be on the right track to saving your marriage.

Christian marriage has a foundation that is based on the love and belief in the Lord. Turn together to the Lord during this trying time. Whether that means holding hands and praying quietly and silently, praying together out loud, reading your Bible together, whatever it may take to turn towards Him.

He is waiting to hold you in His arms and guide you back to each other. Always have faith that the Lord is who brought you together, so He is the one entity that has the power to bring you back together. All you need to have is an open and faith filled heart.

Be open to seek Christian counseling as well. Most Christian churches are more than equipped to provide counseling for those members who need it. Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed as that counseling was put there to help. Call your church with your spouse and make an appointment to speak to someone for some extra help in getting your marriage put back on the right track.

It is important that you seek out Christian counseling only as you will want the person who is counseling you to share your beliefs and values, as it will make the process that much easier.

Though you believe your situation may be hopeless, remember that a Christian marriage can be saved. With some hard work and open heart and faith in the Lord you can return to a place in your marriage that you truly thought you would never get back.

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Christian Marriage Counseling

A Christian marriage is a wonderful and sacred union between a man and a woman. Both participants are confident that the Lord brought them together and their marriage will be long lasting and successful.

Sometimes though, life gets in the way and they hit a period of rough times. Because of their true love and devotion for each other and the Lord, rather than throwing in the towel they decide to seek out Christian Marriage Counseling. It is wonderful that they have made the decision to seek help.

Exactly where does a Christian couple go to be counseled correctly?

One option and probably the most obvious would be to seek counseling from the great counselor, the Lord. Turn towards him during this tough time. Speak to him together, call out to him together, and cry with him together. He is more than aware of the difficulties you are experiencing and He is just waiting for you to ask him for help.

If you both open your hearts up to Him completely and pray that He will guide you closer to each other and to Him, He will do just that no questions asked. When two individuals who are already strongly faith based come together and ask the Lord for guidance and help, miracles have and will occur. Just makes sure that both of you truly believe that He is in control of the situation and has the power and the love to help you both.

Something else that you may want to consider to incorporate with the Lord’s love and counseling is to seek out Christian counseling as well. This is where you and your spouse can sit down with an unbiased third party that you can talk to and air out your differences. Please make sure you seek out Christian counseling and not just traditional counseling.

You may want to see if your church has a program in place (which many usually do) or ask a Christian friend or Pastor for advice. Reason being is that because your marriage is faith and devotion based it is important to have a counselor who understands the importance of the Lord in both of your lives and in your marriage as well. This will make all the difference.

A Christian Marriage is a lifelong commitment. During the rough times if the need to seek out counseling arises please obey. Whether it is through prayer counseling with the Lord or through a Christian counselor it can only strengthen your marriage and bring you, your spouse and the Lord closer together.

How to Have a Successful Christian Marriage

A marriage that is based on Christian values has many elements that can help in dealing with some rough patches that all marriages experience along the way. By incorporating these values into the marriage, it can make a big difference in the success or failure of it. Many Christians know that without them they could not classify their marriage as successful.

The most common and most obvious would be the mutual love and admiration for the Lord. Both participants in the marriage have a strong love and devotion for God. This brings them together not only on a physical and emotional level but on a spiritual level as well.

They are both confident that the Lord will guide them through the rough times and celebrate with them during the good times. Together they spend time in prayer, in church and in sharing their devotion with others. This helps them grow stronger as a married couple as well.

Another important factor in a successful Christian marriage is that of forgiveness and trust. Each understand that the other is not perfect and will make mistakes. They know that perfection only lies in God, not in man. This allows them to look beyond each others faults and mistakes and have forgiveness for each other.

Though it may seem to be a difficult task at times, to have forgiveness for each other, each will be given the strength from God to make that possible. They will trust in each other that forgiveness is what the Lord wants them to do and they will become even closer as a married couple.

Finally and most importantly, a successful Christian marriage is one based on pure and faithful love for each other. A successful Christian marriage oozes pure love for one another. A kind of love that does not judge, does not falter, is simple yet powerful. A kind of love that many people think can only be found in romance novels is abounding in a successful Christian marriage.

Many marriages are successful. Many are not. Having your marriage based on a Christian foundation can increase the chances of it being successful and long lasting by leaps and bounds. Again, as we know marriage is not easy but incorporating Christian principles on a regular basis can make those difficult times become much easier.

What Makes a Christian Marriage Strong?

When a Christian couple decides to take an important step into the sanctity of marriage they want their Christian Marriage to stay strong forever, but how does that actually happen? Anyone who is married knows that a good marriage takes work. There are many elements that can make your Christian Marriage continue to grow stronger each and every day.

One of the most important elements in a strong Christian Marriage is faith. Have faith in yourself, faith in your spouse and most importantly faith in the Lord.

Honestly, all marriages will have their good times and their bad times but if you have faith that the Lord will guide you and keep you strong, that your spouse loves you with their whole heart and that you are worth it, your Christian Marriage will stay solid.

Another element that is key not only in a Christian Marriage but also in any marriage is the element of communication; you must be willing to keep an open heart. Too many times married couples tend to stop communicating. They stop sharing what makes them happy, what makes them sad, and what they would like to change.

Spend some time in prayer each day and ask the Lord to provide you with open communication with your spouse; it will make all the difference.

Something that may seem obvious but still needs to be addressed is love. When attempting to grow in a Christian marriage there must be an over abundance of love present. There must be an honest and pure love for each other and for God. Without this honest and pure love your marriage will unfortunately become stagnant.

Do not be afraid to show your love freely and without reservation and you will receive it back. Love is what a Christian marriage’s foundation relies on, don’t be afraid to give and be open enough to receive.

Lastly, a Christian marriage will not grow stronger without the mutual love of the Lord. Each day spend time together with your spouse and God. Whether that includes going to church together, reading your Bible together, or allocating a portion of each day to spend in prayer together, this is so important for the growth of a Christian marriage.

Make a conscious decision to incorporate each of these into your marriage on a daily basis and you and your spouse will be on the road to a long lasting love filled marriage with each other and the Lord.

Focus on Christian Marriage: Communication

Communication is the foundation of every good relationship, especially marriage. Too many times we are raised in homes where good communication skills just weren’t made available, due to the fact that parents just didn’t know how to communicate appropriately themselves.

I know for me personally communicating with my husband effectively has been a struggle. I have to make a commitment everyday to try and communicate appropriately with my husband.

Often good communication skills is a difficult skill to learn but all it takes is the commitment to making your marriage better by resolving conflict in a respectful way. How we communicate with our husbands is crucial. Our tone of voice and the words we say can really set the mood for how the conflict gets resolved.

Men often say that having a wife that respects them is one of the things they need in order to be the best husband they can be. If we address conflict in a negative way we will almost certainly end up disrespecting our husbands in the process.

Steps to Effective Communication:

Pray – Sometimes we just need to step back from the situation and ask God to lead us in how we should approach a certain situation that is bothering us.

Approach Respectfully – Even though you may be angry with your husband, still try and make an effort to approach your husband with love and respect. If you read 1 Cor. 13:4-7 we need to be patient with our husbands – patience and respect equals love.

Follow the steps to conflict resolution:

• Let each party express how they feel about the situation. My counselor even recommended using a timer for both individuals. Work to express your feelings without using “YOU” messages. For example instead of saying “I hate it when you treat me that way.” say “When you say this I feel this way.” Own your feelings.
• Next each person needs to express what they will do to help resolve the issue. This isn’t time to try and change the other person. One step towards progress is acceptable and both parties should strive to work towards keeping their promise on what they plan to do to help resolve the conflict.
• Come up with a plan of action. Think of actions, or words you can say to help fulfill your promise on what you are going to do to resolve the conflict. The resolution should be win – win for each person.

We can’t expect to go through our marriage without having to face conflict. God made us different, both with faults and strengths, however made to help each other grow spiritually. Learning effective communication skills will certainly help your marriage grow.