As a parent that is committed to raising your teenager with strong Christian values, you know that there are many obstacles set in front of you. From a world that rarely shares your values, to the unique teenager standing before you in defiance, it is little wonder why most parents throw their hands up in frustration. However, it is possible to raise vibrant, God-knowing teenagers who exist as beacons of hope and light in this world.
Tip # 1: Talk with Your Teenager
Believe it or not, one of the most important tools that you have in raising a Christian teenager is the art of conversation. As you remember, the teenage years are a time of discovery, of finding out who and exactly what the teenager wishes to be. Phrases such as “Because I said so!” or “I am the parent, and what I say goes,” aren’t as effective as they once were. Your teenager will have the intelligence to understand the reasoning behind your decrees. If presented with a valid argument, chances are they’ll be more likely to listen, and ultimately obey.
Tip # 2: Be Consistent with the Consequences
Part of being a teenager is about testing boundaries. Teenagers need to discover for themselves exactly what is allowable, and what is not. As such, a parent needs to be consistent with how they enforce the rules, and be careful to make the consequences of an action known. If you tell your teenager that he must be home by 10:30pm on Friday night, or he will be grounded for the next day, that is what you should do.
While it is important to be consistent with your punishment, there is also an opportunity to show examples of God’s mercy and grace. For example, if your teenager calls ahead and tells you that he might be a few minutes late, consider acting in good faith and forgiving him when he is late. Or, when your teenage daughter scratches the back bumper of your car because she accidentally ran into the neighbor’s fence, try and put yourself in her place. Forgiveness isn’t always about the big ideas or complicated actions. Sometimes it is as simple as forgiving something small.
Tip # 3: Share Your Faith
Going regularly to church or worship is a wonderful way to reinforce faith in your teenager’s life. It isn’t the only one. The act of discussing your personal faith with your teenager is a powerful way to help them create their own special bond with their Lord and Savior. It is important to make your faith a part of the everyday discussions, either directly or indirectly. Discuss your doubts, your questions, as well as your faithful certainties. By presenting your faith as a growing and changes with your experience, your teenager might very well grow in faith as well.
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