Making Marriage a Priority in 2009!

Aside from our relationship with God, our marriage is the most important relationship we will ever have in our lifetime. God intended marriage to be so many things, but I think as moms we often forget that our marriage truly should come first.

Having a strong marriage will not only benefit you and your husband, but it will also help you to develop a good relationship with your children. It’s a lot less stressful when you are working together with your husband – as a team – to teach your children and be a mom to your children because you won’t be handling the stress of being a mom alone.

For the next several weeks in 2009 we are going to make the Christian Marriage a priority here on CSAHM! My husband and I have been through a lot in our relationship, and we are constantly working on making our marriage a priority. Now it’s not always easy, and I think it would be nice to fellowship with other Christian Stay at Home Moms who also want to make their marriage a priority in 2009 and beyond.

Below is a list of tools for Christian Marriage success. We will focus on each tool more in depth within the coming weeks, but I wanted to outline them here:

• Sex: A bloggy friend of mine is currently hosting the 1 Cor. 7:5 challenge – it is a sex challenge. I would like to encourage you all to take the challenge, it should be fun and will be good for your marriage! 1 Cor 7:5 says:
  

  “So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.”
  1 Cor. 7:5 NLT

  I think as Christians we often forget just how important sex is in a marriage. Sex is OK, it’s OK to say the word sex, and it’s OK to make it a goal to connect with your husband regularly {weekly, sometimes daily} through an intimate exchange. Sex is an important tool to a healthy Christian Marriage. In the coming weeks I will be taking the 1 Cor 7:5 Challenge, and we will also be posting thoughts on the subject and why it is so important to your marriage.

• Communication: Often times I think we have never truly learned, or been taught, the art of communication or conflict resolution. In the coming weeks we will focus on one of the most important tools to ANY relationship and that is learning HOW to communicate with your spouse and learning the steps to conflict resolution.
• Date Night: Spending one on one time with your husband will help to develop a deeper connection, which is important for both the husband and wife, but most importantly for the wife. Later we will talk about why it is SO important to schedule one on one time with your husband, and even offer ideas for a fun date night on any budget.
• Marriage Counseling: Often times people are ashamed or even afraid to attend marriage counseling because marriage counseling is often associated with a “bad” marriage. But I see nothing wrong with marriage counseling, and feel that ALL couples should go through it – even the “good” marraiges. I am not ashamed to admit my husband and I have been going to a marriage counselor for the past 8 months, and I am also not ashamed to say our marriage is better than ever! We will talk more about the importance of marriage counseling, and what you can expect to gain from seeing a marriage counselor in the coming weeks.
• Bible Studies: It is essential to stay in God’s word all the time, but even more so when you are trying to make your marriage better, because at times it will be hard. But staying in the word will motivate and encourage you to persevere.
• Prayer: There are just some things we cannot change on our own. Prayer helps to bring God to the center of any situation and allows Him to heal. We will talk more about how praying regularly can help you and your husband strengthen your marriage.

I hope you will join me in making marriage a priority in 2009. Stay tuned to our blog in the coming weeks for encouragement, advice, scripture, and tips on making your marriage stronger in 2009 and beyond!

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