Christian marriage is a commitment. It is a lifelong commitment to each other and to God. All too often a Christian marriage can hit a rough spot. Sometimes those rough spots are so intense and frustrating the couple may ask if their marriage is worth it and may even consider dissolving the union. However desperate the situation may seem, all is not lost. There are many ways to save your marriage. These are just a few.
First and most importantly, open the lines of communication. Sit down with your spouse and in a non-argumentative tone talk things out. Talk about what is bothering you, what is bothering them and how the both of you may be able to make changes for the sake of each other. Honor each others feelings and thoughts and never attack or belittle each others opinions. If you communicate with each other honestly and openly you will be on the right track to saving your marriage.
Christian marriage has a foundation that is based on the love and belief in the Lord. Turn together to the Lord during this trying time. Whether that means holding hands and praying quietly and silently, praying together out loud, reading your Bible together, whatever it may take to turn towards Him.
He is waiting to hold you in His arms and guide you back to each other. Always have faith that the Lord is who brought you together, so He is the one entity that has the power to bring you back together. All you need to have is an open and faith filled heart.
Be open to seek Christian counseling as well. Most Christian churches are more than equipped to provide counseling for those members who need it. Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed as that counseling was put there to help. Call your church with your spouse and make an appointment to speak to someone for some extra help in getting your marriage put back on the right track.
It is important that you seek out Christian counseling only as you will want the person who is counseling you to share your beliefs and values, as it will make the process that much easier.
Though you believe your situation may be hopeless, remember that a Christian marriage can be saved. With some hard work and open heart and faith in the Lord you can return to a place in your marriage that you truly thought you would never get back.
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So much truth here in a time when it’s getting harder and harder to have a healthy Christian marriage. I’ve started Marriage Mondays to help encourage women weekly about God’s hopes for our wedded bliss.
I have found that in order to put myself into a non-confrontational mode, I need to at least write out my emotions and feelings about whatever it is that’s going on with me before I approach him. I often discover something within ME that needs work, rather than something within him, and it makes a difference in both my attitude and my approach to him. To be honest, until I resolve my internal stuff, my approach is usually pretty inflammatory and makes things worse. Going to God with my emotions and feelings allows me to express them and opens up my heart to listen to HIS voice on the matter.
Well said and so true! For us all