Focus on Christian Marriage: Sex
Posted by CSAHM on February 24, 2009 · 3 Comments
Sex is vitally important within a Christian marriage (or ANY marriage for that matter) because it helps the husband feel closer to his wife. Research has shown that oxytocin levels increase immediately after a man has sex with his wife. Oxytocin levels are actually higher in females and it is essential a hormone that promotes bonding.
Sexual temptation is a real struggle for men, and sometimes even women. Having sex on a regular basis will help to offset this temptation. A good average to aim for is to have sex with your husband 2 times per week or more. If you need to schedule time every week – do so.
Just remember that God invented sex and intended it for good. It is designed to be a way for one man and one woman to connect to each other and create a strong bond.
Being intimate may be difficult for a woman if she feels disconnected from her husband. It is also important to realize the husband may also feel disconnected from the relationship if the sexual relationship is not thriving. If this is the case then it is a good idea to maybe start off slow and find other ways to reconnect through spending time with each other, offering compliments, and through non-sexual physical touch like holding hands or cuddling.
Focusing on marriage can be a difficult task, but just remember one small step in the right direction will help to grow your relationship into what God intended it to be. I like to remember that we reap what we sow. If you sow time, energy, love, compassion, and patience into your marriage then that’s what your marriage will become. No one is saying you need to be perfect, and we all slip up and make mistakes everyday, but the good seeds you sow will not disappear. Just keep working at it. 
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Interesting article — well done — I think my wife has figured out your success too! Added your link to my blog so I can check in from time to time!
Ron Reagan (pen name)
Thanks for posting your article. I’m on board with everthing you stated and think that many Christian women rog themselves and their husband of the joy and pleasure that God intended in marriage. Perhaps because we’re too busy and tired, or simply selfish and don’t pay attention to our husband’s needs. Whatever the case, a lack of sex is recipe for failure in a marriage. Thanks again!
THE biggest issue in marriages is people forget what the Bible told us: it is about two becoming one flesh. Sex ends up being a battlefield of control and power, about “you versus me,” not about creating a WE. Too bad. It contaminates what God intended as a physical representation of two becoming one.
Rev. Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
author of Save Your Christian Marriage