Author: David Murrow
My Review: 3 out of 5 stars
This book begs the question, “Do you really know your husband?” The author of Why Men Hate Going to Church “breaks the silence” about men and the inner workings of their body, soul, and spirit in an attempt to inform wives about husbands. This book does not promise to fix any problems, rather, it intends to explain some of the ways a man’s mind, body, and spirit may work.
It shares the experience of the author, and other husbands, who wants to “understand the powerful forces that shaped your man, and the currents that roil him every day.” Opening up into the processes behind the thoughts and behaviors of men in general, it takes an honest look that might be more than some women are willing to accept.
I have two primary thoughts after reading this particular book. I read it from cover to cover in about a 24 hour period. My first thought was “Really? Is that REALLY how my husband thinks?” and prompted me to ask my husband some questions to find out. While my husband did not admit to everything, what he did admit to surprised me and I appreciated having the opportunity to learn more about my husband and better understand him.
My second thought was that this was just another book trying to use testosterone as an “excuse” for much of men’s misunderstood behavior. But that thought did not last long because the truth is, I cannot claim my rights to “PMS” without extending some allowance for my husband to be subject to his own physiological and hormonal makeup. The more I read, the more I got a handle on the physiological substance that makes up my husband.
The truth is – men are not that complicated. This does not mean they are stupid or less worthwhile than women. It just makes them – DIFFERENT. I think that it is the effort of the author to illustrate the differences between husbands and wives, and to help women understand how the differences can be so complementary within relationships, rather than becoming the battle-ground states that tear a marriage apart.
There were some statements that I just could not simply swallow. While there were a few things I learned about men in general, I think I did get a better understanding of some of the struggles my husband deals with that I never think twice about. And that makes this book something I need to read again and discuss with my husband in the future.
I gave the book 3 stars because while I felt it bears something of a “good ol’ boy” attitude, I’m not completely sure that it is what the author intended. I plan to read it again to see if I need to weed out my own personal issues with men or if some of these points actually apply to my own husband in a real way. It provoked some interesting conversation with my husband, so I am glad I read it.
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